I was touched by this frankness, yet surprised by his naiveté.
For in this modern day and age, that good just doesn’t seem enough. At a time
when parents are living longer and children not taking initiative to begin a
life of their own even as the parents enjoy this longevity seems a bit misplaced.
In the past, when our life expectancy was no more than about 50 years or so, it
was time for the grandparent to exit when the grand children had their dose of
grand-parenting, and the next in line of parents taking over and establishing
the cycle of life just as the consequence. But now with the grandparents around
for yet another 20 years or more – and inshaaAllah, in good health and good
earning via the dividends from their jobs or investment, the young sibling parents
and even those old enough to be parents, live off the earnings of the
grandparent. When asked why don’t you support your family or what would happen
when your parents were to be no more, the young parents’ retort would be that
they would think about it when the time came.
While just being good and respectful is still valuable in
today’s world, the move from just being there and thoughtless to being perceptively
thoughtful is so very important and absolutely necessary. I would say that the
lack of life-skilled young people today in Maldives (look at all the expatriate
guest workers we have in our country doing these for us!) and the unrest that
the idle young people demonstrate in our present moment is a reflection of the
lack of breeding our new-age parents and grandparents of today have brought on
their offspring. We can’t blame the kids for being the way they are. There’s always
a reason for much of the anxiety and related consequences we see today. Grandparents
and those on the verge of being grandparents need to own up to these flaws that
we had precipitated in the past as parents. And yes, in response, we can also
play the blame game because those who are blamed can always blame their
immediate past and the chain of blame can go on and on unlimited. The way to
heal our community of this is for us to wake up to the reality of the present
moment – that it is only through the use of the opportunities in this present
that we can change tomorrow. Merely blaming or lamenting the past can only
further delay the healing and happiness that await us in our future. Let’s rise
to the needs of our Nation to nurture a more thoughtful Maldivian polity of the
future by being grounded in the “now”, not in the regrets and blame of the
past!
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